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Saw this article that says less couples are marrying these days, opting instead to live together.


http://www.thestar.com/living/article/9 ... habitation

What's your take on this? The evolution of society or it's regression?

Edit: sorry for the spelling error with "traditional"

Agreed.

I've been living with my BF for almost a year now, been together for 3. Marriage is not on our list of priorities at the moment. It's too expensive, we have other things we want to spend our money on (kitchen reno, basement reno, travel...etc)
Maybe one day we'll get there, but for now we're happy. Both of us are together because we want to be, not because a piece of paper says we legally have to be.

Similar situation- the choice was either buy a house, or get married. We went with the house, as otherwise it would be us married and living with our parents still. We will get married at some point, but as we've been together for almost 8 years, no real rush.

Define traditional vs. modern? We're married, but there were no religious undertones. Does that mean modern in your poll?

I would be interested to know, how many people are living together not married but with children? I think a lot of people now-a-days are getting married when kids come into the picture.

On the other hand, my wife and I have been married now for 3 months, living together for 2 years and were dating for 8 yrs (2 of those years living together). Even though we got married, we are not planning on having kids (practicing is more fun) for awhile.

To be honest, we're considering children before we're considering a wedding.

We are traditional but that was our choice it is up to everyone to choose what is right for them. We bought our house but wanted to be married before moving in together and before having children. My father is a minister so we did have a "religious" ceremony because it was important for us. I say do whatever works, better to not get married then to get married then divorced. Marriage in general for most people seems to be less of a priority but for my husband and for myself it was a very big deal. We find that marriage is more delayed to 30+. We were 30 when we got married and our friends have waited until their 30's as well.

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We'll get married before we have kids. Still somewhat traditional in that respect.

Amanda and I were together for 9 years (8 of them living together 7 of that with my parents) before getting married. We talked about it for a long time and we both agreed that we shouldn't get married before we are going to live on our own, and we should be married before we have kids.

Did you get married in a church or did you sign any legal document in a registry?

That will answer your question

We also chose to get married before having children. We purchased this home in HV new when we were engaged, and got married in between the time it closed. We were already living together when we purchased, about a year after dating (dating over 3 years before marriage). We always wanted kids (and boy did we get them since we're weeks away from baby #4 ), but were traditional in the fact that we both wanted to be married before we started our family. Our house was a huge priority, and as I said, we bought it while engaged and still had a wedding. It doesn't have to cost an arm and a leg. I did alot of the work myself, and we had a beautiful wedding for 85 people for $10K. We spent more on our honeymoon (as we wanted to travel!) for a month travelling through Europe!

We also notice many more people these days not getting married, having kids, and/or just living together. To each their own! We are NOT religious, and don't go to church, but still felt it important in our values, and for our future children, that we were to be married. We'll be married 7 years this year.

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Check the options again. You're under "traditional."

I would define married as with a marriage certificate

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I think couples still do opt for marriage (regardless whether it's just a legal rite or big wedding ceremonies) BUT it doesn't become a priority.
I can see this trend especially to those who will have to pay for their own (and not their parents)...

What we're probably seeing isn't people opting out of marriage. It's marriage being delayed. It used to be, get married - get carrier - get nice house - get kids.

Now it's stay in college as long as possible (living with parents) - get job - wait for "real career" to kick in - date - move in - get career going - buy house - decide "hey, if we have kids much later, I'll be 60 when they're teenagers!" - get married "since we've been together 20 years anyways"