stilldeciding wrote:
While I definitely favour home ownership over renting when feasible I don't have much confidence in the bank's assessments of qualifying people for mortgages they can reasonably afford. Recently my bank qualified our one income household for a huge possible mortgage when we were looking at selling our present home and buying new build. I thought they had made a mistake but they assured me they hadn't in their calculations. There was no way my dh & I could of carried that high of a mortgage & yet their formula used showed it as no problem, scary really.

But the reality is, if the bank approved you, you can carry that high of a mortgage. I think that is what I am trying to say. People ALWAYS pay the mortgage above and beyond all else. The bank knows if push comes to shove, you would pay the mortgage and let the car payments, credit card payments, store card payments go into arrears. You would cancel the daycare and get friends/relatives to watch the kids -- cancel your cell phone, your TV bill. You'd buy "Great Value" products instead of name brands etc.
I'm not saying it's right by any means -- but the calculations done by the bank assume if you keep your job, you will always have the means to pay for that house at the current rate. You may have to live in poverty but you should never have to lose the house.
Unfortunately, many people blame the banks for giving them too much mortgage when in reality it is their individual responsibility. The bank is just saying "we think you can get a mortgage of this size and have the capability to pay for it". The bank isn't saying "you should".
We got a mortgage on our first home for half of what the bank pre-approved for. It's because our lifestyle is one where we like our toys, fine wines, good food, restaurants, travel, nice clothing, etc. We have friends who make literally 50% of our household income, with larger mortgages, and they do just fine. They drive older vehicles (no payments), they don't eat out, they buy store brand groceries, and they don't have the latest and greatest electronics. They are doing just fine as well.
Some people call for the bank to change their pre-approval calculations but that won't solve anything. The actual mortgage payment is probably one of the smaller expenses when you look at overall home ownership (and life). Two car payments, insurance and gas costs more. Never mind expenses like day care, education loans, etc.
Everyone has a different situation. The reality is, the bank knows you will cut out everything else well before you are at risk of losing your home. The primary causes of home mortgage delinquency are job loss, illness, and divorce. These three things the bank has NO way of predicting before you are given approval.